I'm not originally from New York and while it's true that it's very easy to meet people here, that's where it ends: you just meet. There isn't too much depth past the initial encounter. Yes, they're fun and mildly interesting. But that's where it stops. Everyone has a different agenda. Many are comfortable with the group of friends they already have. Some aren't interested in making new ones. Others just don't have the time. Whatever the reason, they only become acquaintances. There is never any depth to those relationships. While there is nothing wrong with that, one can only go so long with having only acquaintances. It's easy to meet a great quantity of people, but hard to keep great, quality people.
There's a need to establish something more real when you are in this city where it can (surprise, surprise) get lonely and discouraging. It's nothing any boyfriend or comfort food or alcohol or dancing can fill.
The group of women I have surrounded myself with, come from all kinds of different walks of life. They're from all over and work in different industries. I know without a doubt they will be there when I call. They don't feel burdened if I ever need some of their time. They encourage and challenge me to grow and be a better person instead of being content with complacency. They nudge me to the end of my boundaries but let me make my own decisions. They do not pass judgement but are they are not indifferent. When there's something I want to hear, they know exactly what to say without omitting honesty. It doesn't always make me feel good about myself, but what matters is that they are not building me up for false greatness.
I know that wherever our lives may take us, I can always turn to these women and know they have some kind of insight to share with me. I know that they expect the same from me. It isn't everyday that you meet women who want to see and help you succeed and overcome your weaknesses.
To the ladies of my life: Thank you for never being filtered when sharing your thoughts and opinions. I love that you all run around town causing chaos with me, but know when to sit down and play board games with me while we discuss our lives and ideas and inventions we have. I love that you all want to share your life with me by sharing your dreams and hopes, as well as your failures and insecurities with me. I hope that I can be the best kind of friend that I can be to you, as you have been for me.
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